Photographing this family has been such a joy and privilege. From Senior portraits, family photos and many weddings, I’m a big fan of the TeVelde family! Jaclyn and Wade’s day was absolute perfection. From the family estate to the vendor team, everything was a dream. Here’s a few of my favorites from the day.

Thank you to the incredible vendors who made this day perfect for Wade & Jac!

Planning, design & production @ribbonandleaf

Florist @sweetmemoriesflowers

Photographer @kelliavilaphoto

Video team @ironandfern

Catering & Bartending @fugazzis

Rentals, tent & lighting @standardeventrentals

Specialty Rentals @foundrentalco

Makeup & Hair @beautybyemilybarton

DJ @gteeventgroup @smooth.gte

Landscape decor & design @tropicsbydesign 

Perimeter draping @thelinenshoppetls

Ceiling draping @ksbcompany

Restroom trailer @theluxlavatory

Ice truck @32BelowIce Ceremony


Event Setup @college_minions

Invitation Suite & event signage @willemina_typography 

Wedding dress @ivory_bridalboutique

Dessert bar  @allabout.thecake 


Wade + Jaclyn

I just want to share a bit about intimacy. I have so many thoughts on this and I think it’s because I’ve loved and lost so much in this area that I fully and painfully understand the value of it. 

If women are willing to get real and truly honest, we have to recognize the very specific and intentional way a man is created. By design, men need intimacy. Or, to be more specific, SEX! It’s true and it’s not a negative thing. In the same way women need to be adored and loved, Men need sex. 

For some reason, women often choose to withhold sex from our husbands. We prefer ourself and our disinterest over their innate needs. I understand that there are things that need to happen and circumstances that can make honoring intimacy difficult. I’m not assuming we all live in perfect relationships. But what I am saying is that when things are good in the bed room, everything outside the bedroom is so much better. There’s more grace for the stupid shit when you’re having fun in the sheets! Who cares about the trash piling up when you’ve just been “taken care of”. It’s absolutely worth the effort and intention. I think it’s a make or break kind of issue. And I believe very strongly that the residual affects of a healthy bedroom life have a direct and important affect on our children. They have to see us in love. They need to know that their parent’s relationship is secure and they learn how to love and be loved from what they seen in the home. 

Maybe this is too personal or taboo and you think I’m out of line. I’m ok with that. There’s at least one person on the other end of this email that needed to hear this. And yes, there’s a message just like this one for men. Men need to understand how a woman is made and what we need to be able to honor what they need in return. I’m just not the one to deliver that message. I’m simply talking to women. And, I have a feeling, that if you give first, the conversation about what you need and want will be well received and respected. But someone has to give first. 

I say, let it be you. You go first . Do it with a boudoir session full of incredible portraits. Do it with a boudoir experience that doesn’t just impress him with how beautiful you are but also reminds you of how beautiful you are. Boudoir sessions are liberating and inspiring. They make you feel lovely, sexy and lovable. You get your hair and makeup done, you sip champagne, you hang out with me and laugh… It’s really just as much for you as it is for him. 

So hear me out. Meet him at his need and watch what happens because of it. With one boudoir session everything could begin to change. I’ve never heard of anyone regretting it. 

You can schedule a limited amount of shortened sessions to celebrate the new studio using the link above. 

Or use the link below to schedule a full session.

If you need to chat and learn more, please call me or visit my website, I want you to feel informed and excited about booking your session. 


You should probably have sex with your husband…

Visalia’s pretty little gem, The Darling Hotel, is the newest venue for small weddings and elopements. Gatsby vibes and the rooftop bar make it my first choice for all things wedding and boudoir! I pulled together a fun team of wedding vendors to make a little styled elopement magic and we were not disappointed!

Couple: Brynn & Josh

Florals: Sweet Memories

H&M: Makeup By Dara, Hair by Whitney

Video: Justice Films

Styling: Kimberly Joy Events

Dress: Daughters of Simone

Rentals Standard Party Rentals

Accessories: Make Pie Not War

Desserts: Con Besos



Some say don’t pose, just let it all happen organically. Well actually, there’s nothing organic about a camera and a stranger in your face so, I say, both! 

When I’m with clients photographing families, children, seniors, couples.. I’m shooting for more than just the client. The client likely has a grandma, a mom, an auntie, a future self… While wind blown hair and big laughs are full of life and natural, Your grandma doesn’t always want that on her wall and your yearbook requirements are likely a bit different. So I’ve made it a priority to pose some and direct organic moments all at the same time. 

A timeless portrait with eye contact and smiles is a unicorn photo when you have small kiddos but it’s not impossible. It’s what I start with and then I let moments unfold. When your toddler waddles away and begins to explore, I’m tagging along, capturing chubby hands in the grass and little feet in the sand. When your sweet baby girl reaches up to be held, I’m capturing daddy lifting her up and giving her a little toss in the air to cheer her up. Dads are good for that. When you bend down to discipline your 5 yearly for not listening during family photos, I’m shooting your hands on his face and your eyes locked on each other. You have no idea but I’m grabbing all the moments in between the ones I set up. I’m also setting scenes with easy instruction. Kiddos, do what you do, run as fast as you can to daddy and then tickle him! Or 12 year old, hug your mom and hold her for a minute. While you’re there, tell her thank you for being awesome and promise you’ll never get a girl friend;) If a sweet moment + laughs unfold,I’m high speed shooting all of it!

So If I tell you to stand in a way and look at the camera but then it all falls apart, that is ok! I’m there for it. The moments you think are wasted and no good, I’m finding the memories.


Posing vs Directing

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